As men we know that foreplay plays a very important role in sex and often enough we make it our mission to be great at it. But, what if you wanted to spice things up? What if you want to be the one that get’s him burning with desire?
Like women, men are also fairly complicated sexual beings and we also enjoy our share of fun. Most women believe that it’s enough for a man to “stick it in” and that’s really all they want from sex. That’s also true if your man is in his first years of sex (or under 22) but after a while they want and expect things to be at a different level.
One of the most popular questions I get asked from men is “Why isn’t my partner asking for sex?” “Why do I always have to be the one that starts the foreplay and moves onto the sex?” Most of the time this happens because he is either not pleasing her enough in bed, so much so that she wants more or…because she just doesn’t know how to do it.
So, in an attempt to please my male compatriots whilst winning you a lot of love from your guy, I’ve written up this article for all of you who want to get your guy ready for some lovin’.
1. An early taste of the action
Sex doesn’t necessarily have to start in the bedroom…it can start anywhere you want it to. I’m not talking about nakedness in public places but giving him that little taste of the action can get him in a fiery mood early on. For example, if you’re out at a romantic dinner, have a passionate look at his tights then move onto his eyes and give him the “I want you now!” look. To make it even better, you can kiss him passionately on the cab ride home.
Alternatively, if he’s working you can send him naughty texts or even a sexy picture if you’re brave enough. Just be ready for him when he rushes home from work.
2. Strip
Ah yes, this is probably a man’s favorite dream. Unlike women, men are stimulated by what they see; romance and stories do nothing for him. So, there’s nothing like a good old strip tease to get him in the proper mood. Make sure you do it slow, sensual and take your clothes off bit by bit.
If you don’t know how to strip tease, do a search online, there are plenty of videos and tutorials. If you’re the shy type and think that this isn’t for you, try having a glass of wine or two to get you in the mood. It doesn’t matter how you view this, if you plan on pleasing your man this is definitely worth trying.
3. Making out
As with you, kissing passionately get’s a guy going. I don’t know what it is but for most guys, when they feel some tongue action things just start going crazy. In a way, our brains directly associate making out (tongue kissing) with sex, they go hand and hand.
It’s really easy to get a guy going this way. Just start off with gentle little kisses, moving on to the full make out sessions while your hands explore his manly body. Also, don’t forget to use your tongue on the ears and neck. Think of it this way, if you like it, he likes it – so get moving!
4. Take charge
As previously mentioned, one of the biggest questions guys have about this issue is “Why isn’t their partner starting sex?” You see, men get tired of being men sometimes and that’s why they want you to take charge. Simply get on top of him and show him that you’re the boss. Rip his clothes off and tell him what to do, he’ll love you for it.
5. Massage
Again, this is another thing most women overlook. If you like to be massaged by your guy, you’d think he wouldn’t want the same treatment? Of course he does. Give him a full blown sensual massage and he’ll want you more than he ever has. Also, if you’ve got time, make sure you use oils, candles, some soft music, basically the whole lot.
6. Role-playing
Role-playing is always great if you want to spice things up in the bedroom. The best part about it is that you can do it without any kinky costumes or anything like that. Just imagine a story and then play a role in that story, it’s that simple. To make it even easier you can put on a wig and pretend you’re his favorite celebrity or some princess in a far far away land.
7. Mirror in the bedroom
This is not so much a foreplay move but if you can get hold of a mirror and place it in the bedroom, somewhere where the guy can see himself whilst in the bed…it’s going to do you wonders. I don’t know what sort of narcissistic side this appeals to but we as men love watching ourselves in the mirror, especially when we have our special someone naked, next to us.
8. The No Hands Game
This is a fantastic and fun game to play in the bedroom. Ask your guy to do anything he wants to you but he can’t use his hands. Believe me, the added challenge will make it exciting and just so much more fun.
9. Temperature is arousing
That’s right, take advantage of the effects temperature has on one’s senses. Heat him up by blowing some hot air on his chests (in a sensual way, of course) and then cool him down by lying him on his back and using an ice cube all over his body. These temperature changes will drive him wild.
10. Talk dirty
Although this may come natural to some women, the majority struggle with it. To make it easy for you, do a search online for some standard lines and then say them when the time is right (during sex…that is). Example: “Do you like that baby?”, “That feels soo good”. You can always add in a few moans and “yes”-es and you’re good to go. Before you know it you’ll be a master at dirty talking and you’re guy is going to be begging you for sex.
11. Use a blindfold
Although men are visual creatures, the fact of NOT KNOWING what’s going to happen drives us crazy. So, if you want to turn your guy on, blindfold him then play with his senses. Run your hands all over him, let him feel your warm breath over him, the silk of your lingerie and when he least expects it, go down on him then, stop abruptly and go back to gently teasing him. To add some extra flavor, tie his hands so he can’t control anything that’s going on. The suspense of your next move will kill him (in a good way).
12. Experiment
Finally, don’t be afraid to experiment. Your guy expects you to be doing sex related stuff as much as he is, change things up and show him that you’ve got what it takes. Push the boundaries if you can, you never know what results that might bring you.
So, the next time you guys are in bed, don’t just go for the mini him. Surprise him and tease him, it will do you wonders.
